Sex--Can We Talk?

Sex Facts and Myths

I’m no expert, so I’ve read extensively, listened to lots of people, and would like more feedback on people’s issues they seldom feel comfortable talking about but wish they could. This is an anonymous forum and no judgment will be offered—we all want to understand what makes us tick and sex is a biological need no matter how much we prettify it with sentiment. Does the sentiment mean anything? Sure—it answers our need for intimacy, which is not the same thing as sex, though we often hope it will be part of the experience.

If people want an idea of what subjects or where to go with this, in a future post I’ll put up a questionnaire. I’d like a serious discussion of a topic that deeply affects everyone’s emotional and physical health. Collective concerns and insights are better than one person’s.

Performance Issues

I’ll start with my pet peeve. I’m going to be blunt. If upfront talk on sex offends anyone, don’t continue reading. If you want to understand a subject, nothing is off-limits initially. Distaste is in the eye of the beholder, and the idea is to share information, not titillate.

Men: in monogamous relationships, media sources often tell us, men go without sex more than they’d like. I don’t know about other cultures, but we all know here in America obesity is rampant. Fat gets in the way of fitting together for maximum pleasure in both men and women, but men are more affected in the performance department, in large part because the medications they take for accompanying problems—diabetes, high blood pressure—interfere with the ability to achieve or maintain an erection or to climax.

Women: medications affect women’s ability to climax as well, including certain anti-anxiety brands. Always read the literature on side effects of any medication. Women can suffer from a lack of interest if their lives are over-burdened with too many chores, if they’re going through hormonal changes, or if they’re having trouble communicating to their partner or don’t know themselves what they need to become aroused and achieve an orgasm.

It’s my contention that there are a lot more frustrated ladies nowadays and the media just hasn’t caught up to the problem. We’ll see. Next week—some sexual facts and myths.