Multiple Orgasms

Multiple vs Sequential Orgasms

One orgasm directly after another, rarely experienced by women, is called a multiple orgasm. Sequential orgasms are more common and are spaced by at least several minutes between them but require additional stimulation to achieve them. So don’t be surprised if you haven’t experienced this. Many women find additional stimulation after one orgasm overwhelming or even painful. Men need more time to become erect again and, usually after their orgasm, have no interest in continuing to stimulate their partner.

If it interests you to experiment, and it should since boredom is one of the biggest complaints from both partners in a sexual relationship, talk to your partner about delaying his gratification, which—a side benefit—may intensify his orgasm, and see what you can achieve together.

Female Ejaculation

Again, since it doesn’t affect men, the subject is under-researched. There are glands in the labia that secrete extra fluids when the woman is aroused and that researchers believe, along with lubricating the labial area, sometimes send that fluid to the ureters and expel it through the urethra during orgasm. It feels like wetting yourself but supposedly isn’t urine (happened to me once and didn’t smell anything like urine), though one researcher I read said it may be a less acidic form of urine.

The volume varies among women and can be as much as a cupful or more. No one seems to know if a certain type of stimulation causes this or what biological role it might play.

The Urethra

In my day, there was no such thing as sex education. I kind of doubt even today classes go much beyond the basic genital structures and mechanics of sex. I always assumed the urethra was a structure, not just an opening. Feel stupid now but didn’t know the opening sits between the clitoris and vagina. I’d seen diagrams showing this and thought maybe I was built abnormally. It felt like the urine came from what I now know is the clitoral shaft. Of course I never asked my doctor. If the rest of you knew where the urethra sits and its structure, I’d be interested to know how you found out—people who aren’t med students.

Next week—sexual positions.

The People Jesus Affected

The Point of the Gospel

Following Jesus {Matthew and Luke}

A teacher of the law went to Jesus and said, “Teacher, I will follow you wherever you go.”

Jesus said, “Foxes have their dens and birds, their nests. The Son of Man has no place of his own.” He said to another man, “Follow me.”

The man replied, “Lord, first let me bury my father.”

“Let the dead bury the dead…” {Luke} “and you publicly declare the kingdom of God.”

Another man said, “Let me take leave of my family before I follow.”

Jesus said, “You cannot serve well in the kingdom of God if you begin work but long for what you had before.”

Personal Thought: those dead doing the burials might be the people who wouldn’t listen to Jesus and were spiritually dead. His mission to bring light and life to the world and have his disciples help him took precedence over earthly concerns.

The People Jesus Healed {Matthew and Mark}

(This section is not in chronological order.)

Jesus visited Peter’s house and saw his mother-in-law in bed with a fever. He touched her hand, was healed, and rose to serve him. In the evening, people brought many demon-possessed to him. He drove them out ({Mark} but wouldn’t allow them to speak because they knew who he was) and healed the ill as Isaiah said: (Isaiah 53:4) “He dealt with our infirmities and carried our sorrows.”

Personal Thought: Jesus rebuking demons who tried to name him is a recurring theme. Jesus preferred his teachings and actions to speak for themselves and for people to come to him out of conviction for his message rather than because they were what could have equated to being star struck for those times—the Messiah was much prayed for. But he sometimes said himself that he was sent from heaven by the Father to do his bidding.

The Clitoral Structure

Correction—in further reading, some say the glans of the penis has only 4,000 nerve endings but the penis as a whole may have more than 8,000. Guess research, though much more thorough on men, isn’t complete for them either.

The Clitoral Structure

This was an eye-opener. I’d read that the larger part of the clitoris extends beneath the surface. I thought the outer clitoris was simply an excitable little nub. Who knew it had pieces-parts? The clitoral hood, analogous to the male foreskin, completely or partially—there’s a wide variation in women—covers the clitoral shaft and the glans, a structure approximately the size of a pea where most of the nerve endings reside. The hood is made of erogenous tissue and protects the glans.

Many women cannot tolerate direct stimulation of the sensitive glans. With proper lubrication, the hood slides over the tissue and both become enlarged with stimulation. The glans becomes hyper sensitive with further stimulation and withdraws slightly as the hood further enlarges. It returns to its normal size in five to ten minutes after an orgasm but may take hours if no orgasm is achieved, which can be very uncomfortable.

The hood may become permanently enlarged due to giving birth, hormonal abnormalities, or steroid use and call for surgery to trim or remove it altogether, similar to the male circumcision. Rarely, a woman opts to have this performed as a cosmetic surgery to enhance her sexual experience. Gives me the shudders.

Clitoral vs Vaginal Orgasms

Some clinicians believe a vaginal orgasm alone is impossible since the vagina, especially the inner two-thirds, have few to no nerve endings. Minor surgery there can often be done without anesthesia. Others say the clitoral structure extends into the front wall of the vagina and can produce pleasure deep within the vagina. Friction to the outer clitoral area can be maintained during intercourse by adjusting positioning or using manual stimulation at the same time to achieve orgasm.

More on positions and techniques in a later post. Got caught up in the structure of the clitoris this week, so next week—more on what happens physically during an orgasm for both sexes, multiple orgasms, and female ejaculation.

The Point of the Gospel

The Point of the Gospel

The Cost of Following Jesus {John}

Many complained that Jesus’ teaching of eternal food and drink was too difficult to believe. Jesus said, “This offends you? What if you see the Son of Man return to heaven? The Spirit gives life. Physical life means nothing. The words I give you are spiritual and they are life. Yet some still don’t believe.”

Jesus had known from the beginning who would accept and who would betray him. “This is why I said the Father must supply the knowledge or opportunity for a person to come to me.”

Many turned back and stopped following Jesus. He asked the twelve if they wanted to leave as well. Simon Peter said, “Lord, to whom else would we turn? You have the words of eternal life. We believe and know that you are the Holy One of God.”

Jesus said, “I chose you twelve, but one of you is a devil.” He meant Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot.

Personal Thought: Christian teaching usually emphasizes that no one goes to heaven (receives eternal life) or finds God except through Jesus but seldom mentions that to go to Jesus, God must first send the person. This puts a slightly different spin on things and goes toward the overall theme of The Point of the Gospel: Jesus said he came so that the Holy Spirit might follow him and be the ultimate teacher. His purpose in coming was not foremost to provide us with the Bible but to forge a bridge to God by removing our sins. He forgave us, became the final sacrifice for our sins to allow us into the presence of God, and provided a resource, a conscience, a teacher to show us the way—the Holy Spirit. Our individual relationship with God depends on the Spirit. While the Bible is certainly a tool toward that end, the Holy Spirit is God’s divine hand in our lives.

Biology of the Female Orgasm

Sexual Dysfunction in Women

The prevailing wisdom (decided by men) used to be that women couldn’t feel sexual pleasure. Fat lot they knew. Doctors at one time actually manually stimulated female patients sexually to combat hysteria, a supposed nervous condition leading to physical and mood symptoms that were sometimes diagnosed to need a hysterectomy to correct the condition. Wow.

Sexual dysfunction in women can stem from drug use—prescribed or illegal—and hormonal changes from pregnancy, breast feeding, PMS, or menopause that cause a lack of lubrication or a waning libido. Vaginal narrowing and atrophy can occur with age, especially if a woman doesn’t engage in regular intercourse. All this can cause pain, fear of intercourse, and an accompanying loss of sexual interest.

Talk About It

Fingers or vibrators shaped like a penis can be used to help prevent tissue atrophy and plenty of lubricants exist. Water-based are best and least likely to affect the natural PH level of the vagina or cause infection.

It’s a shame so many women are uncomfortable talking about these problems with their doctor, but it’s important to do so for one’s physical and emotional health—marital problems might be avoided, feelings of inadequacy, depression.  

The Biology of a Female Orgasm

Basically, science doesn’t have a real explanation for it as they do for a man’s. Big surprise. It doesn’t seem to be a necessary component of reproduction, though the theory goes that the muscle contractions during orgasm may help direct the sperm into the cervix and the fallopian tube where the ripe egg sits.

Women vary in how much and what kind of stimulation they need to achieve an orgasm and may require more than one type, such as stimulation of erogenous zones (lips, breasts, butt, etc.) to begin the lubrication process before direct stimulation of the more sensitive—and therefore easily painful if not properly prepared—clitoris.  

The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings as does the head of the penis. There is insufficient research to state what the G-spot is or if it really exists. The structure seems to vary in its placement among women and seems not to exist in others. Most scientists believe it is part of the clitoris that extends to the front vaginal wall.

Next week—female ejaculation, multiple orgasms, and the social influences on sexuality.