What
the Experts Say
Apparently,
when men talk to each other, no matter how mundane the topic, they are
competing with one another. This explains another woman’s question of why men
refuse to ask for help—directions, to perform a physical task, etc.—or
completely go off topic and turn their attention to something maybe not even
related to what they were supposed to be doing. Men don’t want to admit to
being unable to do a task, to be the bottom person in the competition.
As
this competition is the one-upmanship type, a man can feel that a woman is
trying to one-up him when she offers her similar experience of a problem.
Though she means to show that she understands, he may hear that she’s saying
her situation is worse than his—competing.
Differences
in Brain Construction
A
bundle of nerve fibers separate the two hemispheres of the brain and sends
signals between the two. Research indicates that this bundle is thicker in
women and allows faster communication between the centers for logic and the
centers for intuition (gut responses, not emotions) and imagery, sort of like a
four-lane highway versus a two-lane in men. Words and images can travel faster
in women, though life experience plays a part in building this roadway as well.
Evolution
has a role in men/women differences: women geared to communicating and
emotionally bonding with their young, men geared to talking via physical actions. Providing material necessities (a microwave
for your birthday) or protecting their families are expressions of love. Again,
this conditioning is a base from which life experience determines the final
personality.
Monday—suggestions
for better communication between the sexes.
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