Monday, June 9, 2014

The Subtle Dangers of Social Media



Bullying

Pet peeves, morality issues, political wrangling—gun laws are a big trigger—it’s easy to find instances of emotions running high, rude comments, and outright bullying. You’re stupid if you don’t fall in line with the outlook of the person posting. Easily recognizable, you can ignore it, answer it in like vein, or try reasoning.

I like to keep in mind the advice not to throw your pearls [of wisdom] before swine in case those you’re trying to convince turn to tear you apart. We hope with words only. People who post such negativity—whichever side of the issue they espouse—ignite and foster anger and are unlikely to be in a kind frame of mind or open to listening to any other point of view.

A more insidious form of bullying exists, one that pulls readers in under the guise of doing a good thing and makes them feel guilty if they don’t follow the directives of the post: everyone shares a train wreck (in the figurative sense); let’s see how many will share this—pictures of a vet on Memorial Day was the latest popular thing. So if you don’t share, it intimates that you’re unpatriotic or ungrateful—emotional blackmail of a sort and bullying.

There are also those that pander to the human propensity for superstition: share this and receive good luck, money, whatever—manipulation, another form of bullying.

Living on the Sidelines

The lure of online communication that worries me most for my kids: so and so did such and such (a positive thing); let’s see how many likes we can get. It makes us feel part of a good thing to physically tap the pad and like the post. But have we actually taken part in anything meaningful? Living vicariously from the sidelines, while it seems we’re included in what’s going on, needs no real decisions and actions.

I hope my kids take part in a rich life of doing and of learning from everything they undertake and their face to face interactions with live people. I hope they don’t just watch and comment.

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