When
We Expect Unconditional Love
If
a friend or partner in a relationship becomes incapacitated through no fault of
their own, then unconditional love applies. We’d expect no less in return. We
store memories of better times to see us through when hardship strikes as it
always does. It’s part of the human experience, and we hope builds strength,
resilience, and an even closer bond to one another. And of course we all have
bad days, hormonal days that should be forgiven in the grand scheme of a relationship.
Relationship
Contract
Marriage
and friendship are a shared responsibility and a promise to consistently
consider the other’s needs and desires as important as our own. Sometimes we
put ourselves or the partner or friend first, sometimes we compromise, as long
as it averages out to an equal give and take.
Love,
friendship, even humanitarian love—benevolence toward or forbearance in judging
others—shouldn’t be simply feelings. They aren’t merely in the words no matter
how sincerely meant in the moment. It boils down to day-to-day choices and
actions. A hug, a nonjudgmental ear, a patient ear when hearing the story for
the umpteenth time, doing the dishes, changing a diaper, making an effort to
learn what makes your friend or partner sad, what makes them want to sing—love
is in what we do about our feelings.
Join
In
The
main character in my novel, The Devoted
of Imshalel, struggles with these issues. I’d really love to hear others’
ideas on what constitutes love and when unconditional love applies. We all have
our horror stories and I hope sweeter memories.
Friday
on The Point of the Gospel—the rest
of choosing the disciples.
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